Mother’s Day should not be about flowers and brunches and days at the spa (don’t get me wrong, those are nice…but they don’t need a certain Sunday in May to make them happen). Mother’s Day should return to its roots. While I disagree with the 19th century idea that women, particularly mothers, had a special responsibility for the world’s morality, I will agree that we are pragmatically (by current social norms) in a unique position to bring about change for future generations. If we are to celebrate this day, it should be about mothers coming together to remind the rest of the world that this life is about our children. It should be about teaching our children that there is another path–one that honors one another, regardless of race, religion, sexuality, gender, economic status, ethnicity, or philosophy.
So Happy Mother’s Day, to anyone that has mothered another…something that has nothing to do with gender, or birthing, and everything to do with love.
Arise then…women of this day!
Arise, all women who have hearts!
Whether your baptism be of water or of tears!
“We will not have questions answered by irrelevant agencies,
Our husbands will not come to us, reeking with carnage,
For caresses and applause.
Our sons shall not be taken from us to unlearn
All that we have been able to teach them of charity, mercy and patience.
We, the women of one country,
Will be too tender of those of another country
To allow our sons to be trained to injure theirs.” From the voice of a devastated Earth a voice goes up with
Our own. It says: “Disarm! Disarm!
The sword of murder is not the balance of justice.”
Blood does not wipe our dishonor,
Nor violence indicate possession.
As men have often forsaken the plough and the anvil
At the summons of war,
Let women now leave all that may be left of home
For a great and earnest day of counsel.
Let them meet first, as women, to bewail and commemorate the dead.
Let them solemnly take counsel with each other as to the means
Whereby the great human family can live in peace…
Each bearing after his own time the sacred impress, not of Caesar,
But of God –
In the name of womanhood and humanity, I earnestly ask
That a general congress of women without limit of nationality,
May be appointed and held at so
meplace deemed most convenient
And the earliest period consistent with its objects,
To promote the alliance of the different nationalities,
The amicable settlement of international questions,
The great and general interests of peace
(Julia Ward Howe, 1870)